Posts Tagged ‘positive thinking’

   OK, I’ll admit it, in the past, I have fallen prey to the odd hangover and in my time I have discovered something about hangovers … if you have done everything suggested in my last blog post and you still feel rough, there is more to it than just physical symptoms.

And this is where EFT comes in.  “Tapping for a hangover???” I hear you exclaim in total disbelief.  Yes, tapping for a hangover.

Just think about it for a moment.  The morning after the night before, what is that little voice in your head saying to you?  “You’ve done it again you dolt!” “When will you ever learn?” “How stupid was that?”.  And how do you feel – emotionally that is – guilty, embarrassed, stupid?

If your answer is yes to any of the above (or anything similar) then EFT may help to shift those final symptoms.  If you are not familiar with EFT this link demonstrates how to use it.  Tap along with it and see how you feel afterwards.  If it only makes a little difference, then substitute your own words. For example:

  • Even though I’m feeling really fed up with myself for having too much to drink last night, I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself
  • Even though I say never again every time this happens and I’ve done it again and I’m really annoyed with myself, I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself anyway
  • Even though I’m feeling cross with myself, and guilty and annoyed and I’m fed up that I have another hangover,  I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself anyway
  • Feeling hungover
  • Feeling annoyed with myself
  • Feeling guilty
  • Feeling awful
  • Releasing that now
  • Allowing it to go
  • Releasing that now
  • Allowing it to go
And you never know, being kind to yourself – rather than beating yourself up – may just help you to prevent hangovers in the future.  You never know until you try.

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   This morning I went to a networking meeting and one of the lovely women there suddenly interrupted all conversation to say, “Right ladies, I’ve got a question for you – what is the opposite of procrastination?”  Well, we made our individual and varied replies which she acknowledged as being good, but not right – “close, but no cigar” as my brother would say.  And then she announced “The opposite of procrastination is discipline.”

This came as a surprise to me, especially being delivered in such an “and that’s the end to it” kind of a way.  I think it came as a surprise to other people too as a discussion then ensued as to what discipline is.  Despite the many Smart Phones around the table, no-one managed to summon up definitions for anything before it was time to go and, being the kind of person who likes to have loose ends all tied up, I looked things up when I got home.

In case you are interested, the Chambers Dictionary (9th edition) definition of procrastination is “to defer action; to put off what should (we don’t like that word) be done immediately.” and the Chambers Thesaurus (3rd edition) has, as the opposite to procrastination “advance, proceed”. Discipline simply doesn’t come into it.

Discipline is defined in Chambers as “training designed to engender self-control and an ordered way of life.”

So rather than being the  opposite of procrastination, discipline could be a means out of procrastination and into action … for some people.

For other people, it may be useful to consider that everything we do, we do for a reason.  Even not-doing.  Which is what procrastination is.  And it may be helpful to simply accept that we are not-doing, at the moment, for a reason.

For myself, sometimes, when I finally get around to doing something that I have been deferring, I realise that whilst I was not-doing, my wonderful brain was working out the best way to do it.  Quietly, in the background, unbeknownst to me.

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Hooray!  Thank you Mummypinkwellies for prompting Katyboo1 to start a meme.  Katyboo has started a thankful meme.  I love a thankful meme.

Just thinking about things to be thankful for raises my spirits and writing them down seems to double the effect and once I get going I just seem to find more and more things, so I’ll just start and see what happens.

  1. I am thankful for milk.  Or more especially milk mixed with espresso coffee into a delicious latte – mmmm.
  2. I am thankful for water.  Free, easily accessible, cool, hot, preferably not just warm, particularly for allowing me to enjoy a latte with no deleterious effects.
  3. I am thankful for the blue sky today.  And the sun glinting through the acer at the bottom of our garden showing off the beautiful reds, yellows, greens and oranges of the autumn leaves.
  4. I am thankful for Tweetdeck.  And it’s cheery little beeps and the fact that I get to play at being Lieutenant Uhura – earpiece or not.
  5. I am thankful for Total Greek Yoghurt.  The full-fat, totally yummy sort that makes my lunchtime bowl of mixed fruit feel like sheer indulgence.
  6. I am grateful for my Smart phone.  Which recently reached it’s first birthday – how did I manage without it?
  7. I am thankful for my work.  Which reminds me each day how kind, caring, concerned, helpful and giving people really are when you properly get to know them.
  8. I am thankful that I finally got around to taking my own medicine. For a few weeks now I’ve had a clicky back – right in the lumbar region, it’s been clicking and cracking, stiff and uncomfortable. Water has helped, it’s true, but last night I was so fed up with it that I made myself up some remedies and jolly well took them. Hooray, this morning it is SO much better!
  9. I am thankful for my children.  Always.  Even though my daughter only left me five grapes to go in my lunchtime fruit today, I am thankful that she has chosen to live at home with us for a while and shares her fun and her frustrations with us.  And I’m thankful that my son does the same, albeit from Edinburgh.
  10. I am thankful for my husband.  Always.  For loving me as I am, warts and all.
I could go on and maybe I will, alone, in my own bubble of warm, pink, happy thankfulness.

Go on!  Have a go and post your link in the comments box below ….

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The other day, when I was swimming, I had a brain wave!  It just came to me in a flash.  I hadn’t even realised that I’d asked myself a question, but the answer was “have an Ask Kim button on your website”.  So, my guess is that I had been wondering how can I find out what people really want to know about in relation to EFT, homeopathy, water, complementary and/or alternative healthcare?

That was a couple of weeks ago and my wonderful brother, Martin, has now created it for me.

I would really like to receive your questions so, go here and ask away.

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  In my opinion, should is a word that could usefully be removed from the English language.  Why?  I hear you ask.  Well, to me should is one of those guilt words that implies that I have either done something wrong or not done something right.  (Should know better, should have got that finished by now …)  It implies judgement … in the negative.  The should word is simply not helpful.

Louise Hay has a should exercise in her book “You Can Heal your Life” that I have found really helpful for myself and for passing on to others.  Here’s what to do.

Get a blank sheet of paper and at the top write “I should …” then underneath that write as many ways to finish that sentence as come into your mind.

When you have finished, read the first item to yourself starting “I should” and then what you have written.  Then, very gently, just say to yourself “why should I?” and see what happens.  Then go on to the next item on your list and repeat until you have covered your whole list.

When you have completed that part of the exercise, put the “I should” list to one side and take a fresh piece of paper.  At the top write “If I really wanted to I could …” and then finish that sentence as many times as feels right for you.

And then, if you really wanted to … you could just burn the “I should” list …

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     One of the things I learned many, many years ago is the value of praise and encouragement.  It was while I was giving birth to my daughter, my first birth.  It did not go either as I had planned or as I might have hoped.

Of course I had expected that it would be painful and to prepare myself for the pain I had reasoned with myself that at least half of pain is fear and I wouldn’t be fearful when I was giving birth because I would know why I was in pain.

Ho-di-ho.  That was a good one.  I was in huge pain and therefore in unreasoning fear and I was making a noise like a camel.  Really, I could hear myself, like a camel.  And no matter what I did, how much noise I made, how snivelling, despairing or pathetic I became, my midwife just said “You’re doing really well Kim, keep going, you’re doing brilliantly.”.

Salt of the earth midwives.  No question.

And when I reflected on it afterwards I knew that if she had told me off (which I probably deserved), or told me to pull myself together (which she must have been tempted to), or slapped me (which I surely would have done in her shoes), I would simply have given up.  There and then.  Just stopped.

The more she praised me, the more I felt I could.  And I did.  Thank goodness.

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Mike Dooley Every day I receive encouraging, uplifting messages delivered to my email inbox.  Like this one for example :

It’s true, Kim, sometimes when you’ve had a difficult day, or met difficult people, been let down, disappointed or heartbroken, it’s easy to forget the most important thing of all … you’re alive.

Without even trying.

Who loves ya?

The Universe

You’re alive, Kim, and you will be really happy again (if you ever wondered).

You, too, can receive these messages … for free – just visit Mike Dooley’s website and register.

Go on, you know you deserve it.

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